You're Doing It Wrong: Getting Engaged

Don't worry. Our expert is here to help.
By SCOTT KEARNAN  |  December 4, 2012

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It's easy to fall in love with Jujubee. The Boston-bred drag star just wrapped RuPaul's All Stars Drag Race, the first installment of the reality competition to pit cream-of-the-crop past contestants against one another. She gave good face, served a little shade (that's queens' English for "talked smack"), and proved her loyalty: when forced to "lip sync for her life" against a best friend, Jujubee delivered a tear-soaked performance that compelled judges to let both advance to the "final four."

On last week's Drag Race finale, Jujubee didn't sashay away with the crown — but she did have a shiny new ring on her finger. This season, Airline Inthyrath, as the diva is known once the duct tape comes off, received a proposal via a video message from Christopher, his boyfriend of seven years. (Cue: ugly-cry.) Since the holiday season is a particularly popular one for marriage proposals, we grabbed Jujubee for some straight talk on how to court your queen, pop the question, and seal the deal — no duct tape required.

ON KNOWING HE'S "THE ONE": "There's a feeling of balance. You're not fighting for attention; you finish each other's sentences and have the same outlook on life. Do polar opposites fall in love? Sure, but I think it's rare."

ON THE PERKS OF TELE-COURTSHIP: "Sometimes when you're with your boyfriend or girlfriend, you're quiet for hours without realizing it. On the phone, you're forced to talk and constantly discover something new about each other. We were long distance at first, and I was basically able to have a two-year interview process with my victim."

ON PREVENTING AN "I DON'T": "If you're one of those crazies who does it in the middle of a basketball game, they really can't say no. Or take them up in a hot-air balloon."

ON CRYING PRETTY: "Don't move around too much. Let the tears do their thing, and keep holding yourself well. Posture is everything."

ON PICKING THE PERFECT RING: "The bigger the better, girl: go for one huge-ass rock."

ON WHETHER A WOMAN SHOULD PROPOSE TO HER MAN: "I'd still rather see a man get on his knee for a woman and propose. Because she is a goddess — and he, he's only a man."

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